Well done you. And as someone who’s done the same (and written about it, and talked about it in therapy) I have realised… You really don’t know owe her any communication. We talk about ghosting as if it is exclusively the perpetrators fault. In reality some people are just unapproachable and undeserving. Only tell her if you want to - not because you feel you have to ❤️
I couldn't agree more. I have spent the past few years culling friends, which is sometimes quite tricky; do people sense it and try to leech on more just as you want them gone? Run away, slam the door, enjoy the time back.
It’s the right choice. I’ve been through it and going through it now. My sobriety 3 years ago has caused a whole lot of shitty comments and problems on their side from certain friends. Just keep telling myself friends for reason and seasons.
Ah thanks Clare. Well done on 3 years sober! I got sober a long time ago, way before it was cool as it is now. Somebody gave me some excellent advice about friends and navigating not drinking- they said - ‘those that matter won’t mind, and those that mind don’t matter’ ❤️
The moment she wrote ‘I beat you’, was the moment she showed you exactly who she is - competitive and comparing. She showed you again when asking if you’re marrying for tax reasons. She’d show up at your wedding and continue to undermine, tear down and diminish. It’s astounding what we let ‘friends’ do to us. Well done for walking away.
She sounds dreadful and clearly envious. I wouldn't even bother to explain to her. She knows what she's done. No one is that unaware. I had something similar years ago. Walk away. It's liberating. Congratulations on your upcoming wedding.
I can read endless articles about navigating female friendships because most of the time they are a mystery to me. I so want the friendships I read about in novels or see on TV and often think that there must be something wrong with me because I don’t have them. I do have female friends of course, but I never feel as close to them as I would like.
However I have made it a policy to withdraw from friendships where the other person doesn’t have my best interests at heart; so wouldn’t be happy if I won the lottery for instance but would be rather pleased if my marriage failed. And anyone who doesn’t consider my feelings, says bitchy comments, or puts me down. We’re done.
I have stopped thinking that women make better friends than men. They are equally bad in many cases but can be equally good too.
My best friend is my husband of 36 years who is always on my side (except when it comes to housework).
Congratulations on your forthcoming marriage, good for you! Here is too love and friendship within that relationship and all the more beneficial friendships to come.
Well done you. And as someone who’s done the same (and written about it, and talked about it in therapy) I have realised… You really don’t know owe her any communication. We talk about ghosting as if it is exclusively the perpetrators fault. In reality some people are just unapproachable and undeserving. Only tell her if you want to - not because you feel you have to ❤️
Thank you anna ❤️
I couldn't agree more. I have spent the past few years culling friends, which is sometimes quite tricky; do people sense it and try to leech on more just as you want them gone? Run away, slam the door, enjoy the time back.
I don’t know! It’s so hard… I like the idea of just running away! ❤️❤️
It’s the right choice. I’ve been through it and going through it now. My sobriety 3 years ago has caused a whole lot of shitty comments and problems on their side from certain friends. Just keep telling myself friends for reason and seasons.
Ah thanks Clare. Well done on 3 years sober! I got sober a long time ago, way before it was cool as it is now. Somebody gave me some excellent advice about friends and navigating not drinking- they said - ‘those that matter won’t mind, and those that mind don’t matter’ ❤️
The moment she wrote ‘I beat you’, was the moment she showed you exactly who she is - competitive and comparing. She showed you again when asking if you’re marrying for tax reasons. She’d show up at your wedding and continue to undermine, tear down and diminish. It’s astounding what we let ‘friends’ do to us. Well done for walking away.
Thank you aniwalk🙏🏼
She sounds dreadful and clearly envious. I wouldn't even bother to explain to her. She knows what she's done. No one is that unaware. I had something similar years ago. Walk away. It's liberating. Congratulations on your upcoming wedding.
I can read endless articles about navigating female friendships because most of the time they are a mystery to me. I so want the friendships I read about in novels or see on TV and often think that there must be something wrong with me because I don’t have them. I do have female friends of course, but I never feel as close to them as I would like.
However I have made it a policy to withdraw from friendships where the other person doesn’t have my best interests at heart; so wouldn’t be happy if I won the lottery for instance but would be rather pleased if my marriage failed. And anyone who doesn’t consider my feelings, says bitchy comments, or puts me down. We’re done.
I have stopped thinking that women make better friends than men. They are equally bad in many cases but can be equally good too.
My best friend is my husband of 36 years who is always on my side (except when it comes to housework).
Congratulations on your forthcoming marriage, good for you! Here is too love and friendship within that relationship and all the more beneficial friendships to come.
Thank you Helena. I like the way you place it as withdrawing.. it’s sounds more gentle than my rageful ramblings! ❤️
She asked if she’d be invited to the wedding … she already knows!
And by the way …
CONGRATULATIONS 🎉🥳🎊
… on both the upcoming nuptials and on choosing yourself.